We tend to think friendships should grow organically. They don't. Particularly in our later years, when we often lose friends—to death, illness, or moving away—we need to be much more intentional about making new ones.
This is especially so for "solo agers," those without children and grandchildren. The younger generations in the family typically make up a large portion of the average older adult's social network. Making friends requires time and effort. Research has shown it takes fifty hours of contact to become casual friends. Bump that to ninety hours for a real friend, and 200 hours to cultivate a close friendship. Here are some tips to ease the process:
While you are at it, it doesn't hurt to look for multigenerational opportunities. Establishing bonds with people in their middle age or younger can broaden one's perspective on life! And may help you feel more connected to the future. Having a younger friend may also come in handy should you need a physical favor, such as moving a chest of drawers. Ready to interrupt your isolation? Give us a call at 203-826-9206. We are experts in the process of aging well.
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AuthorLeslie Alin Tewes is a Geriatric, Disability & Medical Care Manager; Elder and Adult Care Advocate; Quality Improvement Specialist. Archives
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